MEDIATION is the best method for resolving marital disputes, but many cases are not susceptible to mediation and there are several pitfalls to avoid. Mediation will work if the parties have little or no residual anger resulting from a party's perceived notion of why the marriage failed. For mediation to work, there should be a mutual desire to reach a fair agreement—one both parties can live with.
MEDIATION CASES come to me either because the parties already have decided that they would like to use the process or because one of the parties has called me and after I am told that there is no great anger hovering over the parties and the parties both want to have an agreement that is fair, I suggest mediation. At that point, I will not speak about the case to either party unless the other one is present or in the conversation on the telephone.